1. HE CARES ABOUT THE OTHER PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE, LIKE YOUR FAMILY AND FRIENDS.
A man who’s in love with you will value your family like his own and won’t have any issues with your friends.
- He knows that these people are important in your life so he welcomes them in his life as well.
- He doesn’t feel uncomfortable and awkward around them and he will willingly listen whenever you have stories to tell about a friend or a family member.
- Your man won’t like to hurt your feelings by having tensions with the other people in your life.
- He’ll be careful not to say anything against your loved ones that will put you in a situation where you have to pick sides.
According to a study in theJournal of Marriage and Family, a healthy relationship is when couples know how to spend time apart with other people. They don’t demand the fulfillment of all their existential needs from just one person. They are okay if their partner wants to get together with her group of friends regularly or spend time with the family.
2. HE’S HAPPY AND PROUD FOR YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS.
Your success is also his success so he is always happy and proud of what you’ve achieved. He doesn’t see you as a competition. He doesn’t grow envious when you’re doing well at your job or other commitments outside of your relationship.
He also doesn’t exclude you from his own success even if you don’t have any direct connection to his work. He acknowledges that your presence in his life adds value. You’re the reason he keeps pushing himself to reach his goals, and he considers you as an important part of his success.
Some relationships suffer from thecompetitive marriage syndrome (CMS), where one partner is focused on outperforming the other to establish his place in the social hierarchy.
There’s a positive aspect to CMS because it can be a motivating factor for an individual to accomplish more than he thought possible. But the need to outdo each other is sometimes the reason couples split. Competitive marriage syndrome is higher in a relationship where both are professionals who are prone to prioritize work over their partner.
3. HE’S NOT AFRAID TO SHOW HIS VULNERABILITY TO YOU.
Some people think vulnerability is a sign of weakness. In the world of toxic masculinity, young men are told to suck it up and never cry if they get hurt. It seems as if exposing their weakness might make them less of man.
If you have a guy who is not afraid to show his weak spots before you, that’s love. If he’s not afraid to open up to you about his fears and worries, or his flaws and embarrassing habits, that shows he trusts you. He lets his guard down because he knows he can be real around you.
It takes an authentic effort to show feelings you’re not proud of, knowing you might be allowing yourself to get hurt or embarrassed. According to clinical psychologist, Lisa Firestone on Psychology Today, couples that expose their feelings to each other can grow a lot closer. Being vulnerable to your partner is one of the secrets to a happy union.
4. HE MAKES SACRIFICES SO YOU CAN BE HAPPY.
A man who truly loves you will step out of his comfort zone. He’s not in this relationship to look for what he can get out of it. Instead, he’ll put your needs above his own because he wants to make you happy.
He’ll willingly sit down and help you decide if moving to a different state for your job would be a positive step. He’ll let you pick a romantic movie to watch together even if he really wants to see an action film.
Sacrifices are inevitable in a committed or close relationship. In fact, sacrifices are the very definition of being truly in love and involved with a person. Relationships stand the test of time and face the challenges of life better if couples are willing to make sacrifices to please their partner.
He also makes sacrifices for you because you reciprocate and make sacrifices for him. He compromises not because he’s a doormat or a pushover but because you also make the same compromises. This is what being in a committed relationship is about.
5. HE’LL FIGHT FOR YOU BUT HE’LL ALSO FIGHT WITH YOU.
A man who loves you will be protective of you. Being protective comes instinctively for him and he will make you feel safe in the physical and emotional sense. A man in love will fight for your love because he is afraid of losing you. He’ll face any challenges if that will mean keeping you in his life.
But he’ll also fight with you to avoid losing you. If he’s invested in your relationship, he will want to discuss your issues even if that means he’ll end up arguing with you.