Breaking up is never really an easy thing for anyone to just go through. This is especially true if there are still a lot of lingering feelings involved that need to be addressed. But in spite of the negative nature of every breakup, it doesn’t always have to be so bad. You just have to make sure that you are going about it in the right way.
If you are the one who is ending the relationship, it’s perfectly normal for you to still have some feelings left over for your ex. This is especially true if the two of you happened to be in a relationship for a very long time. If you’re just curious about how they might be doing because you still care about them after the breakup, it’s okay to reach out to them to just check in. There doesn’t have to be any malice or ulterior motives behind reaching out to them other than just wanting to know if they’re okay.
But how exactly do you go about doing so? Do you know that there are so many strict rules and boundaries surrounding breakups? You don’t want to be crossing the line but you can’t help it. That’s okay. You should know that it’s okay for you to want to know how your ex is doing after a breakup. But there is no denying that these are treacherous waters and you have to be careful with every move that you make.
There are very fine lines here that you don’t want to cross. You want to be able to convey a sense of empathy without pitying them. You want to be able to show that you genuinely still care about them without making it seem like you’re still in love with them. You want to express your concern over their well-being without being too snoopy or nosy.
Regardless of the circumstances surrounding your breakup, it can be very tempting to just text them sometimes to see how they’re doing. But you have to make sure that you aren’t doing so recklessly. If you’re going to reach out to your ex, it’s very important that you reflect first on what you’re about to do. Be honest about your intentions and try to think about what you’re looking to get out of reaching out to them. And if you’re feeling lost about what to text them right after your breakup, then you can refer to the following texts that might best suit your situation:
1. If you broke up with them and they aren’t handling it well.
Hi ______. I hope you feel better today. I’m sorry for the way things went down yesterday, and if you still want to talk, I’m willing to listen.
2. If you broke up with them and they seem okay.
Hi ______.Thank you for hearing me out yesterday. I wanted to know that I really appreciate the way you handled our conversation and I’m thankful for what we had when we were together.
3. If you went through a mutual breakup.
Hey ______. I’m really glad we talked yesterday. I think our conversation needed to happen and I’m thankful we’re both on the same page. How are you feeling?
4. If you broke up after a terrible fight.
I’m really sorry about how I expressed myself yesterday. I think it was a conversation that needed to be had, but I feel I went about it the wrong way. I hope you’re doing OK today, and if not, I’m willing to talk about it further.
5. If they broke up with you and you’re handling it poorly.
Hi ______. Thanks for your honesty yesterday. I’m sorry about the way I handled it, but I felt very strongly for you, and I wasn’t ready for this to end. It was tough, and I hope you understand.
6. If they broke up with you and you’re handling it well.
Hey ______. I’m glad we talked yesterday. Thanks for being so honest. I wish you all the best in life.